Your ex-boyfriend may have illegal access to records normally confined to the police and the government. Assuming this might be the case, here’s what to do:
Remove the battery from your cell phone so that it cannot be tracked. If you can’t get the battery out, then leave it behind or give it away. If you must make a call in regard to some urgent matter, use a pay phone but then leave that area the moment you hang up. Empty your bank account, pawn anything of value, and borrow from your friends. From this point on, do not use a credit, debit, or ATM card.
If you have a car or can borrow one, flee the city and if possible the state. If you have any small items that can be sold later on Craigslist, stuff them in the trunk. Obey all traffic signs and stay within the speed limit. Even if your stalker is a policeman—as some are!—it is unlikely that he
would dare put out an all-points bulletin (or BOLO, which stands for "be on the lookout").From this point on, use only the U.S. mail to communicate with your family and friends. They can reply to you via a new Webmail address provided they enter you in their address books under another name and address you only with that name in each e-mail. You can pick up these messages in a library or an Internet cafe. But now comes the hardest part—finding a place to stay. On the road, avoid all major chains because they demand ID and enter it in their computer databases. Instead, choose a small mom-and-pop motel where they will accept whatever name you give them as long as you pay cash.
When you get to where you are going, either stay with an old friend who is unknown to your stalker or else rent a room from a private party. (Use your “new” name.) Then, and only then, pick up a copy of How to Be Invisible at Barnes & Noble and start planning your future.
Great information as usual Jack!
ReplyDeleteHere's an idea. What about a site for the security / privacy concious among us that lists rentals and rooms available with little identification requirements?
I have a condo that has just come available and think that the person trying to avoid a stalker doesn't want a credit check or other nationally submitted data to start showing up.
That would be a great service for readers of HTBI and your blog!
Highly useful info.
ReplyDeleteThere are sites that list "hideouts" from women fleeing abusive relationships, but they may not be secure enough. How about a camping site? (If this person has camping gear).
Also, in case the stalker has had access to her computer, unless she can confirm that the machine is clean, she shouldn't use it to access the Web, since doing so could trigger malware that would report her IP address and other location-based info.
Wow....sad times we live in when I think how this advice could literally save a life.
ReplyDeleteKeep up the good work and good luck to this young lady....stay safe!
Instead of leaving the cell phone behind mail it to a bogus address a long way away. Leave it on with the ringer/vibrate OFF so it won't attract attention if someone tries to call. Then if it is tracked it will leave a false trail.
ReplyDeleteRe - finding small mom-and-pop motels, check on the old US routes, that, before the interstates were built, were the main transportation roads in the United States. There were/are lots of small motels along these roads, that are now hurting for customers because they have been bypassed by the interstate highways.
ReplyDeleteShe could also leave a 'false trail' to throw him off, like leave a note or some info in her house (if he's likely to break in) giving a false location where she will be going, that way she can buy more time and throw him off.
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